I’ve spent 20 years teaching people to listen to their bodies. Turns out I couldn’t tell when I was full.
For over two decades, I’ve helped people see the beliefs and patterns behind what keeps showing up in their lives, and I’ve done that same work on myself.
But there’s one area I have never been able to shift on my own: food.
So when menopause hit and my weight kept climbing, I did the thing I tell my clients to do: I found someone who could keep me consistent and accountable to the changes I needed to make for my health.
The signal I couldn’t hear
Not long after I started working with my nutritionist, we discovered something I still laugh about. I couldn’t read my body’s signal that I was full.
Me. The woman who has made a living teaching people to listen to the connection between what they think, what they feel, and what shows up in their body. I’m tuned in to almost every signal there is. But that one? It just wasn’t coming through.
She looked through my food log and asked, “Were you hungry enough to eat two dinners?”
“Well, no. But my husband cooked, and I didn’t want to be rude and not eat it.”
“How often does this happen?”
“Um… a lot?”
Knowing my background, she suggested a workbook: The Intuitive Eating Workbook: 10 Principles for Nourishing a Healthy Relationship with Food by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch. It’s been a great tool. Learning to listen to my body around food has turned out to be a skill I didn’t know I was missing.
What it actually looks like
I see her virtually, twice a month. She’s knowledgeable, she’s compassionate, and she’s willing to push me when I need it.
I finally found a food-logging app I can work with. Am I logging 100% of the time? No. But I’m consistent. And she has me building success with small steps, so I have the confidence for the bigger ones.
Right now she has me working on getting 30 grams of protein at breakfast. (If I hear one more time how important protein is, I think I’ll throw an egg at someone. That’s 6 grams of protein, by the way.)
Here’s the honest update: I can’t tell you my weight is dropping. It has its ups and downs. But I feel healthier, and my numbers are trending in the right direction.
The real lesson isn’t about food
What I’m really learning is to appreciate the help instead of trying to do it all alone. It’s something I explain to my clients every day. And then I go home and do the exact same thing with my nutritionist.
If this sounds like you
Maybe you’ve done the work. The books, the therapy, the effort. And there’s still one area of your life where you can’t move the needle.
That’s not you failing. Some things you just can’t see on your own.
If you’re like me and you struggle to accept help, this is your sign. Invest in someone who can guide you, keep you consistent, and hold you accountable.
That’s the work I do with my clients. Book a convo with me. And if I can help, I will.
